Never Say Your Leaving?
I’ve heard stories about people being ostracized just for saying they’re thinking of leaving their community. That wasn’t my expectation—but my experience has turned out to be more complicated. I tend to share openly. I even wrote a book about sharing and the gift economy because I genuinely believe life isn’t a zero-sum game. That belief comes from how I see life itself: as one vast, interconnected organism continually branching into endless variation—birds, fish, fungi, humans. What we call evolution. When you see the world this way, someone else’s well-being becomes your own. When others thrive, so do you. A couple of years ago, I began spending my summers away from the small town where I live. It gets intensely hot here, and like many places, we have a lot of snowbirds. But my absence stirred up questions: “I thought you left?” “I heard you’re moving.” Soon, a few “friends” began to distance themselves. That hurt. I realized that my value to them may have been tied to my visib...